Best life ever Resolution + Connection Circle

Best Life Ever - Supportive Resolution Circle
Sharing my ‘download’ during Buddhi Mana yoga last week…mainly produced from a desire to be on board with and understood by those I love and share space and life with - how do we get on the same page?  We care for eachother, we want the same results. A win-win....

How can we be clear and specific and feel supported? This popped out and revealed itself to me, a blend of many different modalities and experiences I have edited out over the years that got distilled into this, basically based on my needs process.  Have at it and let me know how it goes! 

Best life ever Connection Circle

for people who live and work together, partnerships of any kind

An ideal setting would be to gather every Sunday night at dinner or potluck with friends, neighbors, roommates or families.  For 4 people, think 20 minutes. Of course, this could be a conversation starter. Just imagine what would happen if you were each on board with each other’s goals and visions. Why it can be so effective in a group format is that one feels seen and witnessed by neutral parties and people may act more civil in front of others. Showing vulnerability in front of others also creates more intimacy in our human connection.

If it could help, set the timer for 2 minutes each when going around if concerned about brevity and focus. 

First person:

1. Share what your 3 goals are this week (mundane to big) (then go to next in circle and state) 
2. Share what your needs are from your partner
3. Share what issues you have with your partner: while you look at your friend and both tap on their chest with their finger tips. “I do not respect you for not taking the trash out when you said you would”, (be specific about your negative feeling of anger/frustration/disappointment/hurt, etc) partner answers: “Even though you don’t love and respect me, I love and accept myself and I love and accept you.”  both inhale + exhale (if the word love is too forward, please omit it and replace it with respect) "Even though I don't love and respect you and myself, I love and accept you and myself" BREATHE!
4. Curiosity + requests: You can choose to say any or all of the following to each other:  ‘I love you, I am sorry, I forgive you, thank you’. You can leave it at this with no story or continue to show curiosity on why and the person may share what happened for them or even venture to make a request “next time, please just say: “I may take it out between Monday and Friday and if you get by the dump first, please feel free to grab it” That way, I can grab it no problem if I am heading that direction and it won’t smell up our living space.”  (solution and inclusion oriented)
5. Share what you are proud of yourself for (3 things):
   talk about the goals you accomplished this week, big or small, or great feats, or news in your life of responding differently, or wild abundance shaping your life.  That way everyone can be kept abreast of your accomplishments and inspired and share in the glory. ~everyone cheers~
6. Gratitude circle for everyone:
   first person, go around and say what you are grateful for about each person in the circle, then the next person follows suit ~get your hankies out, and that's okay~
7. Earth prayer - each person shares one intention about our earth now or all make an “OM” sound together to close the circle for the greater good (3 times or your own creation)
8.  Stand up, circle up, and hold hands.
   Bow down to stretch your legs and touch the ground with the hand you are holding next to you, give a deep and truthful thank you to your temple, your legs for participating and holding you up, for your neighbor for their truth and trust and for the spirit of Gaia, our Earth, that provides our nourishment, home-life and this grand divine comedy.  At the count of 3, all come up with their hands and shout “YAY!” ~Hugs all around~ FREE HUGS!!! Lean your head toward the right of the head, that way our hearts touch!

Let’s see how our life transforms! 

Feel free to report back and with and if you have any questions. PS - if there is tension, there is nothing like showing curiosity vs judgement, then more compassion can arise when truly asking and listening...listening is missing in our culture.

Format Inspiration:

1.  Goals …. = Wayne Dyer
2. Non-violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg
3. Gary Craig, open hand policy with Emotional Freedom Technique (aka tapping)
4. A mixture of Ho’opono’pono and non-violent communication, making requests (informing your loved ones of what works for you!!!  Aaaah, imagine, how powerful!!!)
5. Santa? Louise Hay? Is gloating okay for once? #selfhelppolicies #louisehayisapioneer
6. Acknowledgement and validation are underutilized and allow us to feel witnessed
7. Every yoga class you have ever been to and maybe your S O U L and cosmic essence....
8. Sonya Sophia closing EFT circles, my EFT teacher > I can never thank her enough!!! #rolemodels